“The real barrier is the soaring cost of marriage and child-rearing. Many young people simply can’t afford to get married. To truly raise marriage rates, the government needs to lower these economic burdens.”

  • StinkyFingerItchyBum@lemmy.ca
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    3 months ago

    It’s the wrong approach. Earth is in a gross state of ecological overshoot. We should be embracing the demographic decline that will bring our populations and consumption back in line with earths resources.

    A shrinking society due to aging is far prefereable than one due to resource exhaustion, deprivation and conflict.

    Embrace a smaller population and a bigger world.

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      3 months ago

      And this is where unregulated capitalism and the constant craze for GROWTH GROWTH GROWTH comes into the picture. With a failing demographic AND an aging society, economic collapse is inevitable. I mean, it could be just a long, smooth slope in theory, but not with this dystopian economic system where you have already spent the money you’re getting back in 10 years’ time, with the greedy shareholders dictating everything.

      I mean, these demographic changes will happen regardless, but the effects of currently having such a flawed and short sighted system will be painfully drastic.

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      3 months ago

      All that means is extinction right now.

      It’s the poorer classes that understand how to live in the world, but they’ll be the ones to die with the rich clueless gentry inheriting an earth they can ever live in.

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    3 months ago

    Of course experiences differ from person to person, culture to culture, and between different circumstances. But in my experience…

    • Have a brother-in-law who married my SO’s older sister many years before we even met. Had 3 children together. Out of nowhere he decided to run away and live with another woman, then got back, decided “people felt different” and left again, only to again try to return and be denied by my sister-in-law. They were the favorites of my mother-in-law until the separation.

    • Have another BIL, married my SO’s younger sister. 2 kids together, just months ago he threatened to leave to a younger woman (a friend of his younger sister). He was the only one to sympathize and side with the first BIL, guess why. Might still run away, because he clearly is only there for convenience.

    • Me and my SO, not married, 13 years together through thick and thin, we never saw any real point to it since we always built our relationship based in trust and mutual understanding. Still going strong and any time we have issues we face them together. Now my MIL tends to favor us over the other ‘couples’, now “marriage doesn’t guarantee anything after all”, not that I personally care about that.

    The point being. Marry if you want, but never feel forced to do it. If you need a fancy piece of paper by the government or religion to stay together then it’s nothing more than a self-imposed cage, and it’s far from a guarantee against infidelity.

    You only have this one single life. Live happily, don’t try to please everyone against your own happiness. Everyone will still be unpleased, and you’ll only get increasingly miserable.

    • msprout@lemmy.world
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      3 months ago

      I deeply respect anyone who chooses any alternative to monogamy, but y’all have no idea how stoked I am that I get to call my partner “wife.”

      It’s totally fair to be as vanilla as an unsalted cracker if that’s what you feel! The ‘Q’ part of LGBTQIA is super duper important, as how can you be sure you’re straight without ever asking?