What else are you suppose to do?
Ask for help. Be vulnerable with the boys.
Lol, no. We’ll all just suffer quietly thanks.
Hanging on in quiet desperation is the English way.
The time is gone, the song is over. Though I’d something more to say.
Breathe, breathe in the air…don’t be afraid to caaarreeee
If only that worked for me. I’ve been in a depressing place for 5 years, and I both opened up to my homies and brother… Crickets.
My wife keeps me sane and grounded.
I feel that, man. I’ve tried being open with friends and it just didn’t seem like it mattered much to them. I don’t have many close friends, almost none to be honest. But I have my wife and no matter what I always know she’s there for me, unfailingly.
Cool, cool, cool…
Are there any other options tho?
I will just say, having gone through a real rough year, it’s not always black and white. I be vulnerable with the boys and ask for help, but I need time to process first, and to do it in the way I want and the time I want.
In the meantime, I am often sending memes for that small comfort of friendship while I process.
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Wallow in self pity?
I’m good with sending memes.
you guys have homies?
All my homies dispersed after our lives became so painful and tiring that we had nothing to share anymore.
Men growing up never learn how to talk about their lives and wants and fears with each other, it’s always fake bravado, masculinity, “how can I make everyone laugh” and other increasingly desperate attempts to cling to the simple, happy days of childhood when there was less to worry about and every day was magical.
When the magic wanes, we’re left as people holding nothing. We don’t know how to laugh anymore. We don’t know how to make anyone else laugh anymore. We stop smiling. We stop going out of our way to even keep up appearances, and just fade into the background, and most of us like it that way. Because society broadly doesn’t know how to handle male emotional states that don’t follow stereotypes for cartoonish masculinity. So as men get older, we get more and more alone.
I literally have no clue what it feels like to have other men, related or not, to lean on and talk to. I’ve never had support from anyone outside of my partner, and cannot imagine how dark life is for men who don’t even have that. Yes, our world is unkind to men. It’s also unkind to women in a different way.
We can each change it, but it takes effort, emotional intelligence, and of course the time in the day that most of us don’t have once you have bills to pay and people to take care of.
And I don’t say this as some kind of whiny-ass teenage MGTOW redpill kid who is mad at women. I have studied sociology and neurology for decades, I have been a coach and trainer to young men, as well as women and families, I have taught self-defense, I’ve been in therapy, I’ve had substance abuse problems, i’ve kicked substance abuse problems. I’ve been religious and renounced it all. I’ve been a shut-in introverted gamer turned outgoing, public-speaking business leader. I’ve lived a few and speak from decades of just being and watching.
I’ve never had support from anyone outside of my partner, and cannot imagine how dark life is for men who don’t even have that.
Pretty fucking dark, take my word for it.
the problem is systemic. a brotherhood of man wouldn’t put up with the whims of poor leadership.
a brotherhood of man
What in the fantasy novel is this about
Memes ARE a cope
And then kill themselves
Source CDC
Wasn’t the attempted suicide rate for men and women the same (not completely sure), but men overall tended to opt in for more ‘successful’ methods making the actual suicide rate higher?
Women attempt more, but use ineffective strategies like overdose. Men attempt less, but use more effective strategies than women do (like half of successful attempts are with guns. It’s actually really hard to OD on purpose - tried it at least three times lol)
It’s not a “men have it better than women” or vice versa thing. It’s more about cultural presentations of suicide and suicidality.
Hey! It makes the day better when your homies laugh
Well what else are we supposed to do? Open up about our problems and get ridiculed to oblivion?
Good for you, I wish I had those kinds of friends
When i had to take my dog to the emergency vet, I got on discord and posted about ten Star Trek memes in under five minutes. One of the guys asked if I was ok, that’s when i broke down and revealed the reason. I was basically looking for attention…
How else are we to feel better then?
jerk off to anime tiddies?
I guess there is more than one way after all
but that never makes me feel any better
do it more then?
I’ve heard of worse coping mechanisms.
Often it’s when I’m most likely to. Sometimes you need a distraction, small comforts, and a reminder of feeling normal
It’s how we have to communicate, as most cultures won’t allow us to be open with our emotions.
Y’all need actual friends.
No shit. Men, nor women, pretend to be sad, they pretend to be happy.
It’s very true trueeeee
